Freezing my ass off at the pool for Miss10′s swim training,  Trying
to write, but my fingertips are turning blue.  Almost 1500 words so far
this chapter, but not sure I’ll be adding much here.

On the other hand it’s easier to write about the snow.

hopeforyouyet:

gnc-centric:

tarantulesbian:

theroguefeminist:

princess-horchata:

sauvamente:

luxwing:

sexualbolshevism:

bogleech:

“LIFE HACK lie to your spouse and ruin your things!”

what the fuck is wrong with straights

why the fuck do straight people hate being honest with each other

This is so childish and unnecessary, I hope she left

This isn’t a Straight People® thing, it’s misogyny.

Yeah, I was going to say–this is straight up misogyny. It’s called “learned helplessness” when men feign or cultivate helplessness to get women to do household labor for them. Society perpetuates the myth that women are naturally better at domestic labor than men, and plenty of men consciously or subconsciously exploit this myth. Men do this–not “the straights.” Queer men are perfectly capable of doing this to female family members, so don’t pretend it’s just a straight “person” thing.

Not to be that guy, but this is NOT learned helplessness. Learned helplessness describes the phenomenon of abuse/trauma victims who do not try to escape the traumatizing situation because they don’t believe they are capable of leaving and/or don’t think they are worthy of something better. I get that buzzwords are cool and all, but let’s not pretend this is anything other than misogynistic abuse.

Just to add, I know gay men who do this within their relationships, like with their husband/BF/partner. This is more of a male entitlement thing and is applicable within gay relationships for sure.

Isn’t it laziness?

In my house we call this Strategic Incompetence, and it usually applies to 10-year-olds who resist learning how to load the dishwasher properly. It doesn’t fly with adults, and just earns 10-year-olds more lessons.

In other news, I really hate flashbacks, but I’m also not gonna drag everyone through the details of the planning in real time.  But there are a few details I want to share.  Which basically means I know all the stuff that goes in this chapter, but not what order to write it in.  Sigh.